I had a client last week that I hadn't seen in 10 years. She came to me back then to decide what she wanted to do with the fact that her husband had had an affair.
She wanted to decide whether she should stay with him or end their marriage. She then found out that he had had multiple affairs since the very beginning of their marriage.
For her, the marriage was over. Then came a very difficult period of time with the divorce, money, children and all that comes with that.
The bad days
Then the depression came. And it was terrible. Days that she couldn't get out of bed, couldn't get to work, couldn't take the children to school.
It was a terrible time that lasted many years. But she kept going. She crawled out of bed most days and that's only the days that she was able to get out of bed.
There were many days that she didn't think she was going to survive. There were many days that she didn't want to survive. She just wanted to give up.
She told me that what kept her going was her children. She couldn't allow herself to give up because of them and they are what kept her alive during those horrific years.
A positive outlook
She came to see me last week. Much has happened and she has grown and changed a lot. What I saw in front of me was a strong, powerful confident woman.
We are now working together to help her make a career change. She said to me that if she hadn't gone through all the horror that she had gone through over the past years, she would never have met herself - this woman now.
She made it through. It didn't kill her, it made her stronger.
I leave you with two of my favourite quotes-
If you can't fly then run, if you can't run then walk, if you can't walk then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.
Martin Luther King Jr
and
What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger.
Friedrich Nietzsche
